Story of the Worms: Questioning Our Motivations

The Story

After a long period of rain in my area, I noticed that many worms had found their way into the road.  This isn't a particularly unusual phenomena, as worms often vacate their holes when they become flooded with water.  The rain has the effect of push worms to move beyond their comfort zone into new territory.

I've noticed that several things happened to the worms who left the safety of their holes. Some were picked off right away by the early birds while others headed out across sidewalks and roads, searching for higher and drier ground. In both cases, the worms moved beyond their burrows into unknown territory.

Of those who ventured forth, some ultimately made it safely to a new destination - others were not so fortunate. Some got stranded in the road or walkways and were crushed by cars or human feet. While a few got stuck where they were, drying out when the sun came out, eliminating the moisture they needed to move forward.

The Technology

I stopped at a local restaurant the other evening to have some dinner. As I waited for my meal to arrive I noticed two gentlemen sitting together at the bar talking technology over a beer. The younger man was emphatically describing to the older  man why he needed to open a Twitter account. The bartender also jumped into the conversation, sharing his understanding of the tool and how it could help the older man to be on top all sorts of details before they even made it into the news headlines. A couple of times the older gentleman looked in my general direction. His eyes seemed to be pleading for someone to rescue him from what appeared to be an uncomfortable situation.

I don't know what ended up happening to the older man - whether he went home and created a Twitter account for himself or not.  However, I have spent some time thinking about the various potential directions he could have taken.  I imagine he may end up like any one of the worms I've seen in the road lately, as a direct result of the younger men pushing him so strenuously to move beyond his comfort zone.

If the older gentleman just goes ahead and sets up an account because the younger men said he needed to, he may end up getting picked off, stranded, run over, or even dried out.  Those technological outcomes may come as a result of setting up an account and doing nothing with it, using it to share random facts that merely consume time and energy, using it in ways that diminish his ability to think for himself, or even encouraging the narrowing of his current belief systems.

Connections

Seeing the worms in their various stages and then the older gentleman being pressured to use a popular technology have gotten me thinking about mindful influence when it comes to technology. In our own excitement about a new tool or technology I believe we may share in ways that make others feel as though they should want to use the technologies too. I believe it is important to question our motivations as well.

The young men, in their exuberance about Twitter and its ability to provide instantaneous connection appeared to need validation of their own skill while missing the needs of older man unaware of his discomfort. Certainly the older man was also part of the equation.  He is just as responsible for stating clearly what he cares about, what he's interested in, and what he will and will not do. I suggest, however, that in our sharing technology we act more mindfully, asking questions of ourselves and those we seek to support.

Perhaps we might begin by asking:

• Why am I offering this particular tool?
• What are its strengths and weaknesses?
• Have I asked questions of the person I am helping?
• What does the person I am helping want or need? 
• Do they actually want my help?
• What is my personal motivation?
• What responsibility do I have beyond sharing the tool?

Can you think of any other questions we might ask to help us keep from stranding those we seek to support - like the worms on a rainy day?  How else might you determine how best to help, and then continue to support those whom you feel called to lead?  

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